About Domestic abuse

What are the signs?


If you are changing your behaviour because you are afraid of your partner's reaction, this may be abuse. Many women experience domestic abuse without being physically harmed; non-physical violence can be just as destructive and disempowering.

Types of abuse 

  • Psychological/emotional abuse- such as insults, threats and manipulation, blaming or devaluing.        

  • Economic abuse: controlling your access to money or salary, stops you from working, or put you into debt without your knowledge or consent. 
  • Sexual abuse does not have to be physical. Your partner may manipulate, deceive or force you to do things you don't want to do.
  • Coercive control- when an abuser uses a pattern of behavior over time to exert power and control.
  • Physical abuse- most often hitting, but he may hold you, choke you or throw objects. He may pinch or push you and claim it is a "joke". 

  • Cyber abuse- can send abusive messages, demand access to your devices, spy your socialmedia accounts, track you with spyware or share photos of you online.



20 signs of an abuser

Easily and often angered, even by things most people don't pay attention to
Aims to be the center of attention, but feels intimidated by other people whom he perceives as competitors
Often is arrogant, speaks with a sense of superiority, and when provoked can become violent
Extremely jealous
Thinks of himself as the last resort, the final authority
Incapable of sympathy and empathy for the emotions of others
Lies, manipulates, projects blame and responsibility on everyone but himself
Switches often between adoration and belittling with ease
Repeats the same patterns of behavior, does not learn from his mistakes
Always finds justification for everything he causes you, no matter how cruel it is
Prone to passive or overt aggression
Punishes you for your "mistakes", usually out of proportion 
Uses the threat of leaving you, but doesn't let you leave him
Belittles you, makes you feel unworthy
Adopts the role of the victim, and turns you into the aggressor
He thinks that everything in your common life is due to him, and after a possible separation he thinks that everything in common belongs to him by right
Believes that you are to blame for ending the relationship
He may try to keep you or continue contact after the relationship ends to harass you. May also try to manipulate your new partner
Easily replaces you with a new partner and moves on relatively easily with his life